Since last Thursday many of us have been glued to our
televisions, our computers and our brackets engaged in the cultural phenomenon
known as March Madness. Why? I
believe that we watch for very personal reasons – a love of collegiate sports,
reliving dreams of our long lost youth, the excitement of competition, a social
outlet and a renewed connection to regional loyalty. This post will discuss some parallels between
the underpinnings of March Madness
and life transitions. Hopefully it will
add yet another dimension to your viewing experience, and if you have not yet
become a fan, will encourage you to pick up the remote as the Sweet 16 is fast approaching!
An overwhelming concern of many of my clients in mid-life
(40-50’s) is an absence of passion in their lives. Their dreams have been realized; established
and loving relationships, successful careers and nearly grown children. They
are floundering about the next step.
Many cannot identify the last time they felt passion about anything. A
lack of passion is also an overwhelming concern of my emerging adult (19-24)
clients. Their struggle differs in that
they worry whether they will ever
feel passion. Their journey is about
initial discovery, the mid-lifers is about rediscovery.
Let’s look at the players on any team in the NCAA tournament. Certainly they possess immense technical
talent, the benefits of world class coaching, equally talented teammates and a
love of basketball. That being said each
and every day teams with significantly lower seeds upset teams considered to be
more elite. Bad luck or poor calls by
the refs cannot be the only explanations for the upsets. One could contend that the lower seeds
experience less performance anxiety because they enter the game as
underdogs. Therefore, they are less cautious
and so are less likely to make errors based upon nerves. I would suggest that teams are equally
matched in the areas of felt anxiety and the resultant adrenaline rush when engaged
in a heated battle.
The agony of defeat is also equally felt regardless of the
seed, especially in a one or two point game.
When the higher seed loses, there is a sense of disbelief and embarrassment. The lower seeds although disappointed,
expected that outcome. However, I have observed a visible difference in the
thrill of victory demonstrated by the underdog turned victor. Their victories represent a dream realized
rather than an expected stepping-stone to the playoffs. I would like to suggest that March Madness undisputedly exemplifies
the magical power of dreams! Dreams fuel the passion that drives the discipline
and tenacity required to make them a reality.
Initially, the lower seeded teams feel victorious just to be asked to
the dance whereas the higher seeded
teams expect the invitation. Their
expectation is winning it all. The difference
is that the lower seeded teams enter tournament play hungry for a victory. Temple led into the final seconds of the
game, as did Iowa State, Butler and CAL. Often when their dreams neared reality, high anxiety
set in and their games faltered.
In adulthood we often become our own worst enemy. We become so involved in leaping over the
next steppingstone to success that we frequently forget to dream. A life
without passion is a life without dreams to fuel the emotions. We forget how it feels to hunger for the
seemingly unattainable. Based upon our
successes, we expect to excel and therefore the anxiety that keeps us alert and
productive often wanes.
The emerging adult so fears the embarrassment of the “missed
shot” that they convince themselves that “shooting” is overrated. That precludes them from ever being invited
to the dance because they do not
enlist the discipline required to prove the technical competence that would
ensure an invitation.
Many authors are now focused on effective teamwork as the
pivotal lessons learned from March
Madness that need to be applied to the corporate arena. I believe that long before focusing on
teamwork, disruptive innovative thought that morphs from dreams and its
concomitant passion needs to be harnessed. A team without a mutual goal is merely a set
of individual superstars.
To my clients, present or potential, I challenge you to pick
up your remotes and witness the possibility of dreams coming true. The players’ passions are contagious, their
tenacity inspiring and their emotions are laid bare on the court. Allow yourselves the opportunity to dream and
passion will soon follow. Invest the
time and energy to that end by removing the barriers that prevent this process
from occurring.
Every year I am excited for March Madness…don’t miss out on a great live opportunity to experience a renewed spirit and a healthy dose
of inspiration!